Friday, June 14, 2013

Meme: Do you know me? Probably not....b+

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We try to learn about each other but it is hard. Someone asked me the other day what b+ was. Is my name Bee or does the b+ stand for something deeper and less visible? Could it be that I am hiding out on the Internet, using a pseudonym so that a troll or a stalker cannot find me? What does b+ stand for anyway?

It occurred to me that we really don't know each other at all. In fact getting to know each other online is tricky at best. So I decided to share a few things about myself that you may not know.
  1. I'm Lazy First of all, the b is the first initial in my first name, Barbara. But the + tells you that that I am so much more than just a name. I started using it because I got tired of typing my whole name.  
  2. I am optimistic to a fault. It surprises me when it rains on my parade.
  3. I am in awe of intellect. 
  4. I am opinionated. 
  5. I am bashful AND brash.
  6. I think I was almost a perfect mother. My children may not agree.
  7. I am a liberal.
  8. I am a reading snob. 
  9. I have always been forgetful. I am a little face blind and cannot remember people's names until I have been introduced to them over and over. I lose things but always seem to find them.
Can you tell me one thing about yourself that know one knows?

Be well and have a wonderful day.

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Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Downsizing During Retirement: How to Make Fewer, Smaller Bathrooms Work

Note: I think downsizing is a smart financial move for a retiree. But it is an adjustment because it means fewer rooms and smaller spaces. The bathroom is a prime example. Chet Jenkins sent me this article. I hope you like it.

Downsizing to a smaller home during retirement makes so much sense for the single person or couple on a budget. The benefits include fewer expenditures and less maintenance. However, among the downsides of the decision is dealing with smaller or fewer bathrooms than you might be used to. Making do with cramped bathrooms or one bathroom is easier than you may think.

Maximize Storage Space Take advantage of any area with out-of-the-way storage potential. For example, under the sink or behind the mirror — that’s why you should start with the vanity — or in bathroom corners. You can even store some items, like spare toilet paper rolls, behind the toilet. Add shelves behind the door or on the wall. Just because you’ve downsized doesn’t mean you can’t remodel — and start with a storage-friendly vanity. Put some of the money you’ve made by selling a bigger home into revamping the bathroom to maximize storage space however you can. Even if you’re renting and can’t make big improvements, you can add storage-friendly cabinets and bins that won’t require tearing anything down.


Schedule Bathroom Use (to a Point)
If you share a cramped bathroom with one or more other people, you won’t have the freedom of using the bathroom whenever you want anymore. However, there’s a simple way to reduce those incidences of everyone wanting to use the bathroom at once: Make a bathroom schedule.

Unplanned toilet visits excepting, you can easily schedule whose turn it is to shower, bathe or get ready in the morning. Decide who gets to go first each day or rotate from one day to the next.

You will be surprised how less clutter will make things simpler.
You will need just half the space you are using now.
The best way to maximize space in a cramped bathroom is to keep clutter out of the way. This is especially true if you’re sharing a bathroom. Don’t clutter the sink or shower with bottles. Stick with the basics that everyone uses, such as soap and shampoo. Store your personal items, like toothbrushes, behind the mirror or under the sink whenever you’re not using them. If the space there is limited, create a toiletries basket for everyone in the home. Fill it with those personal items you don’t share and bring it in and out of the bathroom as needed.

Look on the Bright Side
Less space seems like a downside to living in a smaller home, but it really could be a positive. Spending less — or nothing — on your mortgage or spending less on rent is the most obvious advantage. When it comes to your smaller bathroom, you’ll:

  • Spend less time cleaning. This is especially true if you have fewer bathrooms than before.
  • Spend less on maintenance. Imagine: fewer drains to get clogged, fewer toilets to overflow or never stop running.
  • Be more likely to keep it free of mold and mildew. Dirt is more obvious in a cramped bathroom, so you’ll need to keep countertops clear and clean so you can share the bathroom.
  • Less to spend to make it more accessible. It’s a good idea for anyone, but especially for retired people, to think about making bathrooms more accessible in the event of injury or illness. A walk-in shower and hand rails to help you get off the toilet or enter the tub is a big expense and a hassle in multiple, large bathrooms. However, it’s an easier task to undertake in a small or single bathroom.Reflect to other times in your life where you might have shared small bathrooms before, such as when growing up or in college. You dealt with it then and you can definitely cope now.

It may take some getting used to at first, but you can happily live with one cramped bathroom during retirement. The kids are gone, so it’s just you and maybe a spouse, significant other or roommate to share the bathroom with. When grandkids and other guests drop by, introduce them to your toiletries basket and scheduled bathroom visit system. Everyone will get along just fine.

About the Author: Chet Jenkins is a contributing writer and retirement blogger. His articles on retirement living have appeared across the Web and in local publications.



Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Spirit Airlines: We Paid The Price for Cheap

Is Spirit Airlines so cheap it is cutting corners on safety? Why do I ask? Well the experience we had with this airline makes us wonder. We are learning the hard way that traveling cheap is not only uncomfortable but also scary. There is a price to be paid.

Last week we traveled to San Diego for our grandson's Marine basic training graduation. We were looking for affordable tickets and decided on Spirit because the price was right. Boy were we in for a surprise. You definitely cannot get something for nothing, not even on Spirit.

If you plan on taking clothes with you, you are going to pay. Nothing on Spirit is free. In fact, overhead storage in the cabin costs more than checking your luggage at the ticket counter. There is no food or drinks, not even a glass of water and the seats are so close that the seat back recline a total of 5 inches (or less).

But that was not the bad part. The pilots may not be as good as they should be. When we boarded the plane in San Diego to come home, the pilot seemed a bit distracted even before we were in the air and the cabin crew was burned out. On the tarmac as we were getting ready to take off, the pilot was having a hard time driving in a straight line. He/she turned corners like a beginning driver and swerved as though avoiding some obstacle. When we got into the air it appeared we were on auto pilot even when the flight was rough. We have experienced turbulence on other airlines but the pilot immediately found air that didn't bounce us around. Not on this flight. This pilot was hanging tough. No changing altitude for him.

When we approached Portland it seemed that the pilot could not find the airport. We turned left then right and even when we landed, the plane veered all over everything. It was very frightening.

So, will I fly Spirit again? Never. Cut rate prices should not mean terrifying! Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.

Just thought you needed to know.

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Oh by the way Spirit said their sales went up when they started charging more for carry on luggage.  If you are a greedy traveler trying avoid checking luggage, your fellow travelers do not like you all that much. It is just bad manners!
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Monday, June 10, 2013

Central Oregon Vacation

This is a re-post. This had to be my favorite vacation with our motor home (sold). The baby here is 5 now and her big sister will be 10 in August.



Tadpole Pond
Lovingly named Lake Susan
after my daughter. She is
standing in the water with Amelia and Maddie.


This picture was snapped with my iphone. It is an image of Mt. Hood (called Mountain Hood by grandchildren), Oregon as we traveled down the beautiful road that lies at it's foot. Heading east on Highway 26 from Portland, Oregon to Central Oregon, we travels south of Bend to East/Pauline Lakes (East Lake Camp Ground) on the east side of La Pine. We traveled in out 35' Motor Home (for sale orencoopinions@gmail.com) and stayed in the East Lake Resort facilities.

The lakes are the result of volcanic activity and hot springs can be found in the area. Hikes include the opportunity to look in a volcanic caldera that is inactive at this time. Many of the mountains in this part of the world are still active and Mt St Helen's erupted late in the last century.

Bend is a resort community and short drives lead vacationers to beautiful lakes, skiing, white water rafting and camping. Oregon State Parks are some of the best appointed in the nation with large camp sites and small yurts or cabins. Reservation can be made online. Some spots are so popular that reservation need to be made far in advance. When you check those parks that are used the most you will find a winner for a vacation spot. National Park campgrounds are equally as beautiful and affordable. When traveling in a RV you will need to check on vehicle length requirements at the state and federal campgrounds and what services are available. There are a lot of RV resorts available throughout the state.

We have lived in this state all of our lives. I never quit taking picture of Mt. Hood and the central Oregon mountains. The resorts are beautiful, golfing is the best anywhere and families are welcome!

We would love to have you come and visit.

The ListAlign Center

Center of the Storm

Grandchildren
Ages 22 month to 16 years
1 boy
5 girls
4 families
6 Adults
One motor home
Three tents.




30 degree temperatures
Beautiful lake
East Lake Resort, near La Pine
8000 ft. Elevation
Thin air
No sewer hook up
Dumped 3 times
(12 people pottying)
5.5 Hour Drive from Hillsboro, Oregon
7 People in RV
1 on a motorcycle
4 in a van
Twelve People
Food, Food, Food ($500+)


Sunset
East Lake
Water temperature 60 degree
120 ft deep
Volcanic Soil
High Mercury Content
La Pine, Oregon
Lots of Food
Grandpa
Grandma
Daughter,
Son,
Son-in-law
Daughter-in-law
Baby running
Children playing cards
Daughter/nieces hiking
Party barge boat ride
Sandy Beach
Happy Children
Busy Adults
Camp fires all day
(Very cold)
Sawing wood
Sparks and coals
Marshmallows
Fishing
Sunset
Love
Joy
Boat Ride
4 nights
Great Vacation
At the center of the storm.


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Sunday, June 9, 2013

The Marine Corp: My Grandson's Journey Begins

I don't know where to begin. This has been an amazing week for my husband and I and my daughter's family. My grandson finished his Marine Corp basic training and we attended the celebration attached to that mile stone. Honestly, I did not know what to expect. I knew I was about to experience the Marine Corp as it opened the doors a crack so the families of those men that finish their recruit school could get a glimpse of their life. They had been in training for 3 month and had not heard any music save taps I suppose. Contact with their families was only what they received in letters and they did not have snack bars or a leisurely moment to themselves during that period of time.  In the Marine Corp the Drill Instructors spend that 24/7 with the men for that 12 week period.

I am sure that many of you have either been in the military or had a member of you family decide to devote a part of their life to their country. My husband was in the Navy. But I was not prepared for the Marine experience in anyway.

Men join the Navy to "See the World" or at least that is the recruiters tag line when they entice young men to join. But what I heard from the Drill Instructor on Family Day was that the Marines join to fight wars and their service is all about keeping our country safe with weapons in their hands. "Every recruit is first and foremost aware that they are expected to carry a weapon."

The video we were shown was all about the battles these men had fought in past wars beginning very early in our country's history. As a grandmother I fought back tears because I remember my generation's war.

But my grandson has had his eyes on this adventure for a very long time.  He will turn 20 next Friday. He is a self taught expert on weapons and actually helped the rest of his company when they had problems. He survived The Crucible, a final push in the training that required extreme physical effort, hunger and extended periods without sleep. It is a shared experience he will never forget.

We sat with his bunk mate for lunch on family day and they talked about that Crusible experience. The memory of seeing nothing but brown uniforms covered with dirt while feeling extreme fatigue and hunger was burned in their mind.  When they were given a clean shining orange, they marveled at the color of the beautiful fruit they held in their hand. Not only was it food for their bodies but it brought their minds to life again.

A proud family with their beautiful Marine.
First picture as a vested Marine...the beginning 12 week completed.
The smiling man is my grandson.


They talked about those that were willing to own up to their mistakes and those that would never admit to an error even if the whole company suffered. It is in fact not only a test of physical endurance but a test of moral integrity.

My grandson made me very proud when he told about how he had owned up to a mistake. No one would have told but he did not want the whole company to suffer for something he had done without thinking. He was given a little more "training" than the rest. The truth goes a long way. He just smiled because he understood what he had done and thought it was fair.

I will never forget the grin on his face when he spotted his mother and father in the crowd on family day or how he could not eat slowly.  I could feel his hunger for music and a talk with his girl friend.

His grandfather, Grandpa Earl, gave him the hunting rifle he had bought with money earned working on a ranch when his was 14-15 years old. The rifle provided food for our family in the early years of our marriage. It is still beautiful but an antique now. It was not new when my husband first held it in his hand in 1952.

I am home now. My flowers are in bloom and the sun is shining. But I am not the same and never will be again. This is a stage of life. I watch. I worry. I pray. But most of all I embrace my grandson's choice. We all have to live life our own way. His is an honorable choice.

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Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Generation Fabulous: Being 50 Was Different Back Then!

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 at Generation Fabulous
Generation Fabulous is all about women connecting after the age of 50.  If you are a woman blogger that has outgrown the "mommy blogger" stage, you will understand me when I say it is very difficult to connect with women of your own age. GenFab is where I go to find out what other women of a certain age are thinking and doing.

I am a part of this group because I can relate to what these women have to say. The multi-generational aspect appeals to me. I think we all need to hear different voices to understand the world we live in today.

Today I saw a link to co-founder Chloe Jeffrey's Generation Fabulous TV show, Coffee With Chloe. It appears on YouTube. The broadcast featured an interview with Lisa Endlich Heffernan and Mary Dell Harrington from Grown and Flown. Grown and Flown is a successful blog that has been featured in the New York Times and on Huffington Post. Jeffreys interviewed the authors  about their life experiences when their children were growing up and leaving the nest. I thought the two women were realistic and honest in their responses.



How Things Have Changed
The women talked about the conversations they have with their adult children and how close they are to them. They didn't think that they had that adult to adult relationship with their parents. They hint that they modeled that type of exchange with their children and are enjoying the rewards as those children grow into adulthood.  I would like to think my family is very much the same but who knows.

However, when it came to discussing subjects like sex or dating, we're are not the same. I suppose I wasn't a good sounding board when it came to dating/sex or even digestion. My children were born in the 60s and 70s. I was a child of the 50s so my children saw a whole different world in the movies and on TV.  Their children are more open with their parents about dating and even sex. According the Heffernan and Harrington this is what a lot of parents experience.

Children leave and come back home after college. It is a matter of economics and job availability. About 7 years ago the jobs went away and necessity forced a change in the way the family functioned to support adult children. Our children were very lucky. My older children were expected to graduate from college and move out into the world and they did.  It was hard for them but they found a way. My youngest son struggled for a little while.

I really enjoyed listening to this interview. It made me realize that even those we have a lot in common we are from different generations and our perspective is somewhat different. It just made sense and Chloe Jeffreys is very good at conducting an interview. 

So thank you again to Generation Fabulous. This was a good one.

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FYI:  Generation Fabulous is for bloggers of a certain age looking for support, encouragement, information, blogging tips, and community.

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Sunday, June 2, 2013

20+ Hobbies: Slightly Dangerous and Weird

This is not your normal list of hobbies. But, in this day and age, retirement hobbies should be changing anyway. Take a look and let me know what you think.

All of us that write about retirement will talked about hobbies sooner or later. The idea is that when you retire you will have time on your hands. I think a lot of people believe that a life without work will be blissful. Then after a while they realize that they need to fill the days with something meaningful. I know many just think that they will go back to work.  But here is an idea...try out a hobby first.  Who knows you may just find not working is more fun than you thought.

I have seen very long lists of hobbies over the years. The items always make me laugh. Things like dumpster diving and ambulance chasing catch my interest.  I knew a man once that traveled up and down back roads collecting what he thought was valuable stuff. It sounded a lot like working on litter patrol to me. There are people that listen to police transmissions or assemble epic jigsaw puzzles.

But for this blog post I am looking for a few things that are weird or exciting...even a little sketchy. Here are a few new ones I have not seen before.

Urban exploration caught my interest.  Below you will see a video taken in the subway tunnels in NYC...going underground guerrilla style could be interesting. I think you are going to like this one even if you aren't interested in trying it out. YouTube has a list of video about this hobby here.



The same author suggested....
Guerrilla gardening:  Think gardening can’t be an extreme sport? It can’t get your heart pumping? You’re probably right – but guerrilla gardening is still pretty cool. 
Garden planted in shopping bags then left by a lamp post
See guerrilla gardening in public spaces takes some courage because it is not expected or necessarily legal. But doing it without permission embraces the idea that you can make a difference. Getting caught could get the adrenalin flowing. I have a friend that says it is better to ask forgiveness than permission. You might find out if this is true.

Food Cart Pop-Up Business in Portland
Here are few others that caught my interest:
  • Sex
  • Live in a van...park on street corners at night
  • Watch the neighbors
  • Report the neighbors to the police
  • Build a pop-up park (in a parking lot or vacant lot)
  • Learn to cut your own hair
  • Start an insect eradication business using chickens
  • Keep goats and rent them out to eat black berries vines
  • Pop-up Park built in the parking strip by the road!

  • Donate blood
  • Reverse shop...take items to stores and hang them on the racks
  • Give up a vice
  • Become a beater for bird hunters
  • Build a bunker in case of nuclear war
  • Explore asceticism...do without food or soap
  • Sleep
  • Geo cache (this one could be a lot of fun)
  • Become a whiskey/gin/tequila/beer connoisseur 
  • Make lists
And to think you believed that retirement was going to be boring! 

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Disclaimer: I am not suggesting that you do any of these that are illegal. This was written with tongue in cheek...sorta!

Sources:
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